Friday, June 19, 2009
Letting Go of Everything = Self Redemption
"Hitting bottom isn't a weekend. It's not a seminar! Stop trying to control everything and just let go..." Tyler Durden (Fight Club)
Today is the first time in a very long time that I woke up feeling great. I have learned to let it all go. The last few weeks I have been so bogged down about my life and how things are going that I have completely lost my sense of self. I lost who I was. I lost the motivation that made me what I am. Let me take it back to yesterday...
I was feeling like total shit yesterday. I didn't sleep much at all. I was cranky and quite frankly, I was not feeling well. I decided to just go home and rest. I felt a migraine coming on. I get home and I nap for a few hours and I wake up feeling somewhat better. I left my laptop on, so I go to facebook. I scroll through all the notifications and I see one from am old friend of mine that just struck me: Letting go doesn't mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be. This hit me like a ton of bricks. I knew at some point I needed to let go, but my view of that was me giving up on myself and my dreams.
I found myself just thinking different thoughts, but as usual. I was like, whatever. I went to look up some quotes to put as my status and something told me to look up quotes about letting go. That is when I found this site. I read this site 3 times.
Reading the information made me realize something very important. Up until this point, I was not ready to move on. I was holding on the remnants of the past. The reason for this is because I have never been able to forgive myself for the past. I have constantly blamed myself for this divorce. I have asked myself numerous times, "How could I allow this to happen?" I was holding on to the pain and anger of what was. Instead, I need to be seeking self redemption and acceptance.
I need to forgive myself for the part I played in all this, so that I can let go. This way I can examine and evaluate everything while looking into the future. I need to accept what cannot be. I made some mistakes and I cannot continue to make myself pay for them. Letting go is all about me. It is almost like a leap of faith. The future holds so many possibilities and opportunities that I found that I am holding myself back. I need to evaluate the people in my life and only deal with those who are positive.
Everything happens for a reason. I don't say that in the sense that our fate is predetermined, because I don't believe that. But, I do believe that everyone serves a purpose in all of our lives and we need to figure out what that is. When one door shuts, other doors open, so when something unexpected (or something I don't want to happen) occurs, I need to do a better job in seeing the opportunity that may present itself.
I wont lie and say that I am already past everything. I will say that I am making that effort by recognizing that letting go can lead to personal freedom...and I need to be free. I need to be free to do what I want do, even if I am not sure what it is. What I need is face my uncertain future with a smile and know that I am ready for anything.
...and guess what folks? I am ready. I am not looking back anymore.
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." - Tyler Durden